*offers hug*

I'm not going to tell you that you're being overdramatic, because you're not. Your statement two or three years of bad mojo is...I mean it can be something you don't ever get over pretty much sums it up. It's a fairly common reaction to something majorly bad happening, and it sounds like you're got way more than just cause to feel apprehensive - it's sort of 'waiting for the other shoe to drop', (been there, done that) and it's not at all nice.

I wish I could help.