I think negativity is basically learned and it does affect what occurs in a person's life.
But it's also the other way around. What occurs in a person's life can teach them to be negative. At least, that's what I think happened to me. I didn't start out this way, but all the evidence in my life has taught me that there is little reason to approach anything with a positive outlook.
Fear can be a great motivator but it can also spur you to make bad decisions that seem good at the time, or at least, feel like the only way to go. This also has been part of my history. I've made a lot of fear-based mistakes that seemed very wise when I made them -- it was only in retrospect that I realized I was running away from something without a real plan. Even worse, there were times when I did have a plan, or at least thought I did, and it all fell apart anyway. This repeated history has made me afraid to do ANYTHING to change the status quo because the unknown is always worse than the known and I find it nearly impossible to release the regrets and self-recrimination that follow.
If you can recommend a practitioner of the Alexander Technique I'd be willing to try it. One thing the chiropractor showed me on my x-rays is how fucked up my spine is and there's no way that's good. I feel like if I could at least get that straightened out (literally!) then maybe some other things would start getting easier as well.
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But it's also the other way around. What occurs in a person's life can teach them to be negative. At least, that's what I think happened to me. I didn't start out this way, but all the evidence in my life has taught me that there is little reason to approach anything with a positive outlook.
Fear can be a great motivator but it can also spur you to make bad decisions that seem good at the time, or at least, feel like the only way to go. This also has been part of my history. I've made a lot of fear-based mistakes that seemed very wise when I made them -- it was only in retrospect that I realized I was running away from something without a real plan. Even worse, there were times when I did have a plan, or at least thought I did, and it all fell apart anyway. This repeated history has made me afraid to do ANYTHING to change the status quo because the unknown is always worse than the known and I find it nearly impossible to release the regrets and self-recrimination that follow.
If you can recommend a practitioner of the Alexander Technique I'd be willing to try it. One thing the chiropractor showed me on my x-rays is how fucked up my spine is and there's no way that's good. I feel like if I could at least get that straightened out (literally!) then maybe some other things would start getting easier as well.